tactic library
Work

Workplace gaslighting

also called: You must have misunderstood

Your memory of an event is rewritten as your mistake.

how it sounds

I never said that. You must have misunderstood.

What they’re really doing

Attacking your confidence in the record so the argument becomes about your reliability instead of their words.

The reply that answers it

Here's the message from [date] — happy to work from that.

tap the text to copy · square brackets = the one fact only you know

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Decode my message — first one free

Usually shows up with