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Whataboutism
Your point is answered with an unrelated accusation.
how it sounds
“And what about the time you did the same thing?”
What they’re really doing
Trading topics so the original issue never gets addressed. Both sides now have a grievance and nothing gets resolved.
The reply that answers it
Happy to talk about that separately. Right now I'm asking about [original issue].
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